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Tandem breastfeeding July 3, 2010

Filed under: Breastfeeding,Parenting,pregnancy — naturesmother @ 11:17 am
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To answer the question a lot of you are asking…what is it like to breastfeed a toddler AND a newborn??

The honest answer…not without it’s difficulties, but extremely rewarding!  The difficulty, mainly, has been Erin wanting more boobie than ever, perhaps due to Ayla feeding so much(a bit of jealousy), but perhaps due to the yummy new milk that’s come through. For the first few days Erin got really upset when I fed Ayla and not her, but I have kept her routine (mainly) of only feeding at naptime, bedtime and in the morning.  On the day my milk came in and my breasts were full, hard and sore, I gave Erin an extra couple of feeds, which really helped to ease the discomfort! Erin seems to understand and accept now that Ayla needs boobie more than she does, and often sits beside me and strokes Ayla’s face while she feeds. It’s very sweet.

The other difficulty has been that Ayla’s latch onto my breast doesn’t always seem right and she often slurps my nipple in and out of her mouth which has made them a bit tender.  I think this is due to the thrush she has in her mouth, making it uncomfortable for her to suck, and I’m hoping it will pass soon.

Other than that it is a joy to be able to bond with both my girls in this way-and them with each other- and know that the benefits of breastfeeding, for all 3 of us, never end.  I had a moment the other day when both girls were really tired and upset and I was at my wits end, so I sat on the bed and offered them each a breast and bathed in the stillness that followed, watching them both drinking hungrily and gazing up into my eyes, completely content, Erin instinctively rubbing her baby sisters arm.

We surely have two breasts for this reason, and while controversial in our consumerist western culture where bottle replaces what nature has provided and breasts are often associated purely with sex, it feels like the most natural thing in the world to me!


10 Responses to “Tandem breastfeeding”

  1. Gail Says:

    This was so beautiful to read… how special that you have this opportunity and are grabbing it with open arms 🙂

    • KATE Says:

      This was trully inspiring to read, i had terrible trouble feeding both my girls (seperately) and followed bad advice each time, giving up because (as i was told) ‘i had given it my best shot’. I really hope to have a third child one day, and it is stories like yours that i am saving in my memory for when the going gets tough. I’m determined not to give in next time!

  2. adeline Says:

    I have directed several people to your lovely blog. It’s so useful for people to hear this kind of information. Well done and thanks. x

  3. Becky Says:

    What a lovely post. So nice to come across a likeminded mama’s blog. I have been tandem feeding my two for over a year now. Heather is 13 months old now and still feeding on cue 6+ times a day and Cain will be 4 years in a couple of weeks time and still nurses to sleep most nights. I believe it made those early days with a toddler and newborn so much easier and also helped to fit in all those necessary moments of rest. Blessings to you all.

  4. Becky Says:

    And just adding – on reading more of your blog I realised that Ayla and Heather share a birthday although a year apart. What a lovely coincidence. Congratulations mama. xx

  5. cdrl5 Says:

    wat a mummy!

  6. tenure.track.mommy Says:

    That is awesome. Kudos to you!

  7. Thank you all!! Still loving it! xxx

  8. […] and we’re both still benefitting healthwise.  For my tandem breastfeeding blogpost, click here […]

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